Are You Welcome?

Turawa muka sani da barin gidan iyayensu idan sun kai wasu shekaru ko da ba aure suka yi ba. A namu yankin we hardly talk about it. But believe me, akwai lokacin da zaman gidan iyaye ba na mace bane. Idan ta dawo gida bayan ta fita da aure. In ya kama ta dole sai tayi haƙuri kamar yadda ake fada mata yayin shiga gidan miji. 

Your parents do love you. Maybe su ne a gaba wajen kashe miki aure saboda wahalar da kike sha. Amma duk da haka indai ki ka dawo gida as bazawara Allah sai addu’a. Ke da mamanki ku zama kamar kishiyoyi. Once upon a time kina ɗan rayuwar yanci a gidan aure. Idan ki ka dawo gida sai karbar umarni a gaban kanne. These little things hurt both of you actually. Ke kina ganin kin girmi wasu abubuwan yanzu, Mama na ganin baki isa ba. Maybe ma if you had done a little better da har yanzu kina gidan auren ki. Your siblings musamman yan mata kuma su koma faccaloli. Gida kullum babu zaman lafiya. In kin taho da yaranki sai kin koyi dauke kai. Wani abin da gangan za ki ji ana yi musu da zai bata miki rai. Ki yi magana a goranta miki zawarcin da ki ke yi. Kada ma dai ace hannunki dukan cinya yake yi. You do not have any means of contributing something at home. Many a times this has led a lot of women to jump into the arms of the wrong suitors for the wrong reasons. Sai a tafi a sake dawowa, ko ayi ta hadiyar bakinciki don kar a fito.

There are exceptions I know, but this is the typical expectation in the life of a divorcee. Har gara idan miji rasuwa yayi. Ana yin abubuwa bisa tausayi. In both cases dai she does not dare suggest living away from home indai ba yara gareta manya that will be her security ba. Addini da al’ada basu yarda ba and for the sake of mutumcinta hakan daidai ne.

Bazawara kenan, baiwar Allah. Rayuwarta gaba kura baya siyaki. Gashi dai gidan iyayen is her best option amma tunda ‘bazawara’ adjective ya karu akan sunanta to sai tayi hakuri sosai.

Dear parents, please a dinga sassautawa zaurawa especially if they are divorcees. In kun tsangwame su ina kuma za su kama?

Me ku ka taba ji game da wata bazawara mara dadi a dalilin zaman gida?

 

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Fatima
“Ah this long queue, abeg” I said as I approached the ATM beside our house.
I stood for a few minutes, “when will it come to my turn, gaskiya Banda lokaci let me be going” I said to my self as I took my leave
. “Hello come and go before me” called out a young man. I turned
“Ah thank you” I quickly ran in front of him as the people in the queue grumbled.
Thank you I said with a big smile.
You are welcome he said.
To be frank with you I didn’t give him a second look, I withdrew my money, thanked him and I was on my way.
He quickly followed me.
“I didn’t catch your name miss”
“I didn’t throw it” I said.
Haba now this is not how you respond to your knight in shining armour
Knight ke” i let out a loud laugh
“Ok what’s your name at least, do you mind if I drop you?” He asked.
“My house is down the road so don’t worry and yes my name is Fatima”
“Oh you see this is meant to be, you have my mom”s name, can I call you mama na?”
“Well you can call me Ummi, that’s what my family call me ” I said.
“Can I see your phone” he asked
“why” I asked as I looked at my shattered screen. I quickly hid it with my veil.
I want to dial my number, so you can have my number, you need me in your life” He said with a smirk
“Is that what you say to every girl” I asked
“No just the ones I like” he said
‘Let me go”
I wouldn’t let you go until you give me your number or instagram handle or snap” he said smiling
For the first time we locked eyes, I felt some electric surge down my body, he is a fine man I ain’t got lie.
“08134435581, can I go now?”
“Wait now, haba mana ummi na”
“Ummin ka? You are such a charmer just now now I am your ummi?” I asked with a smile.
“Yo da ta wacece”
Tun da kinki na rage miki hanya shi ke nan. He opened his car and started the ignition.
Suddenly my phone rang.
“Aren’t you going to pick that? Mijin ki na kira baza ki dauka ba” he said with a broad smile and drove off
Omo wetting be this, this guy wan carry me go where I no know!!!

Ahmed.
Hello, ya how far kana ina? I asked as I placed a call to jibrilla
Jibrilla is my best fried and my partner in crime.
“Guy I just met the girl of my dreams”
“Please free me, I don’t have energy for your dreams or your girls” he said
“Walahi this girl is what I want, exactly fa komai da komai “ I said.
“ Yanzu dai where are you, are you in the office”
“No walahi Baba sent me to Senator Rufai’s office to drop some documents, on my way as we speak, lets just meet later at the spot” he said
“Ba matsala, see you later” I said
Just then I realised I forgot to withdraw the money that made me stop at the ATM in the first place. Shit!!!!

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