Polygamy – The Mr

Namiji hankaka, gaban ka fari bayan ka baki.

Namiji kanin ajali.

Namiji ba dan goyo ba.

Hmmm…

Hakorin dariya shi kan yi cizo!

Allah ja zamaninka da zarar kaji mata na irin wannan kirarin fa babu tantana aure ka dingimo. Uwargida tana tsaka da jindadi ko cikin bakar wahala da yunwa sai ka kwaso abin da duk duniya tafi ki wato kishiya ka ce za ka yi mata. Personally, I won’t judge. Dama ce daga Allah so use it all you want…use it wisely.

Are you intending to be mijin mace sama da ɗaya? If yes please take a look at your heart. Wannan tsokar tafi komai gaskiya a jikin mutum. You may choose to hide your intentions from people. You can even go into denial, but man, your heart knows. Why are you taking another wife?

Are you able and capable financially and medically?

Fulfilling a lifelong dream of having more than one wife.

Looking for someone to fill in on your wife’s lapses?

Compulsion for any reason be it parents or circumstance?

Love?

Your reason is yours. Ƙarin aure is not a crime so you really do not need to start looking for reasons to justify your actions. Wannan ne mafarin blame games wanda yake janyo rashin zaman lafiya da matar gida. Everything is up to you daga lokacin da ka fara neman wani auren. How you handle the situation, how you relate with the incoming lady and most importantly how you treat your wife shapes everything. Remember, daga ta gidan har mai shigowar duka mutane ne. They have feelings which are greatly influenced by your attitude and words so much that one wrong move and your home with kids in it may crumble to shambles.

For the wife, you should avoid things like cin fuska, bata ta a wajen wadda kake son aure, making her feel worthless, wulakanci, rawar kai da kafa na dokin yin amarya and the likes of it.

Amarya kuma kada ka nunawa ta gida ai dole aka yi maka, shoving her needs to the side kada ran uwargida ya baci, making feel like a third party da sauran su.

Aure za ka ƙara?

Be a man and own your actions. Be a man is what I said so do not hurt any of them just to win bonus points with the other. There are rules and regulations and even boundaries da addini ya sanya wa karin aure. Do educate yourself before jumping into polygamy.

Dan aji mai shiri ko niyar tara mata a gidansa, shin ka san dokikin auren da addini ya tanada ko kuwa Ayar da ta baka izinin kawai ka haddace?

 

 

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Red Part 1

Fatima
“Ah this long queue, abeg” I said as I approached the ATM beside our house.
I stood for a few minutes, “when will it come to my turn, gaskiya Banda lokaci let me be going” I said to my self as I took my leave
. “Hello come and go before me” called out a young man. I turned
“Ah thank you” I quickly ran in front of him as the people in the queue grumbled.
Thank you I said with a big smile.
You are welcome he said.
To be frank with you I didn’t give him a second look, I withdrew my money, thanked him and I was on my way.
He quickly followed me.
“I didn’t catch your name miss”
“I didn’t throw it” I said.
Haba now this is not how you respond to your knight in shining armour
Knight ke” i let out a loud laugh
“Ok what’s your name at least, do you mind if I drop you?” He asked.
“My house is down the road so don’t worry and yes my name is Fatima”
“Oh you see this is meant to be, you have my mom”s name, can I call you mama na?”
“Well you can call me Ummi, that’s what my family call me ” I said.
“Can I see your phone” he asked
“why” I asked as I looked at my shattered screen. I quickly hid it with my veil.
I want to dial my number, so you can have my number, you need me in your life” He said with a smirk
“Is that what you say to every girl” I asked
“No just the ones I like” he said
‘Let me go”
I wouldn’t let you go until you give me your number or instagram handle or snap” he said smiling
For the first time we locked eyes, I felt some electric surge down my body, he is a fine man I ain’t got lie.
“08134435581, can I go now?”
“Wait now, haba mana ummi na”
“Ummin ka? You are such a charmer just now now I am your ummi?” I asked with a smile.
“Yo da ta wacece”
Tun da kinki na rage miki hanya shi ke nan. He opened his car and started the ignition.
Suddenly my phone rang.
“Aren’t you going to pick that? Mijin ki na kira baza ki dauka ba” he said with a broad smile and drove off
Omo wetting be this, this guy wan carry me go where I no know!!!

Ahmed.
Hello, ya how far kana ina? I asked as I placed a call to jibrilla
Jibrilla is my best fried and my partner in crime.
“Guy I just met the girl of my dreams”
“Please free me, I don’t have energy for your dreams or your girls” he said
“Walahi this girl is what I want, exactly fa komai da komai “ I said.
“ Yanzu dai where are you, are you in the office”
“No walahi Baba sent me to Senator Rufai’s office to drop some documents, on my way as we speak, lets just meet later at the spot” he said
“Ba matsala, see you later” I said
Just then I realised I forgot to withdraw the money that made me stop at the ATM in the first place. Shit!!!!

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